A shy person's guide to making mates at HW!
For some people, walking into a room of strangers and coming out with 10 friends comes as second nature...
For others, not so much.
If you're more of the shy type, making friends in your first couple of weeks isn't going to be easy but it's important that you try because this will make it even more enjoyable.
When you arrive at university in a couple of days time, try these and see how you get on:
Use social media
It's a bit easier to introduce yourself online than walking up to a group of people and saying hello. Try to find your course or society pages/groups on Facebook or Twitter once you're all settled in.
Don't stay in your room
This doesn't mean you have to go down the corridor knocking on everyone's door. It's little things like cooking your dinner when you hear other people in the kitchen or tagging your flatmates the memes on Instagram.
Be a good person
You don't need to be the loudest person in the room to make friends, just be a good listener, give thoughtful advice and be there for people - that's way more valuable in the long run.
Play some music
Going to make some food in the kitchen? Waiting in the laundry room for your washing cycle to finish? Play some music (not too loud) and even if people don't have the same taste in music as you, it's a great conversation starter.
Don't pretend to be something or someone you're not because you'll have to keep up an act that doesn't come naturally to you. By discussing your hobbies and interests you'll meet a lot more like-minded people.
Don't be awkward
Ending a conversation can be difficult so try end with something that means you'll stay in touch so that they don't think you're a total weirdo. If you suggested a film night to your friend, say "Let me know if you want to watch on Friday, message me or something?"
Missing family and friends is completely normal - it happens. This is why getting involved in clubs/societies is great because it takes your mind off it and you could meet your new best friends through them.
Feeling nervous is completely normal, but try to stop those nerves so that you don't ruin this amazing experience. Enjoy it - Heriot Watt is amazing!
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